Since the 1970s, LGBTQ people have been fighting; fighting for equal rights and fighting to dismantle the stereotype that their relationships have no different values and needs.
The truth is, LGBTQ relationships are just as loving and committed as heterosexual ones. And they can also have similar challenges to heterosexual relationships as far as finances, parenting, household chores and so on.
There are, however, certain conflicts and interests that are unique to same-sex couples.
Out VS Not Out
Same-sex couples have another unique issue and that is that each partner may have a different level of comfort as far as being open about their homosexuality. For instance, one partner may be completely “out of the closet” and want to show physical affection in public while the other may not be as out or comfortable.
I help my clients communicate with one another so each party can express what they need in these situations. Every person is entitled to develop their feelings of ease in this regard in their own way and own time.
Non-Inclusive Language
Many same-sex couples wish to start a family. But it can be stressful and frustrating when running into situations where non-inclusive language is the norm. For instance, your child is repeatedly told by their teacher, “Bring this permission slip home to your mommy and daddy.” Or when a man is in the park pushing his baby in a stroller and a well-meaning passerby says, “Aw, adorable, does he look like you or your wife?” Over time, these situations can really wear a person down.
Being in a committed couple is challenging, no matter the sex of each partner, and you are certain to run into your fair share of conflicts. How you handle them is what makes the difference between a strong, healthy relationship and one that ends in ugliness.
If you and your partner are struggling with any issues and would like to speak with someone who can help, please reach out to me.