Relationship Counselling and Sex Therapy

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Alinda is a trained and verified Gottman Couples Therapist —the method draws from the ground-breaking research of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. This therapy delves into nine key components of what they call The Sound Relationship House, fostering understanding and skills crucial for maintaining a healthy foundation. Alinda, a trained and verified therapist in the Gottman Method, along with other methodologies like RLT (Relational Life Therapy) by Terry Real, and many other methodologies that can help guide couples through a transformative journey.

Gottman therapy involves:

  • Building rapport with the therapist to discuss personal histories and treatment goals.
  • Conducting a comprehensive assessment of the relationship, including discussing contentious topics.
  • Learning evidence-based strategies for nurturing a thriving relationship.
  • Cultivating trust and admiration in the relationship.
  • Practicing communication skills and conflict resolution techniques.
  • Receiving guidance from the therapist on effective interaction.
  • Equipping couples with tools for ongoing relationship maintenance beyond therapy.

The respected and renown Gottman method, is grounded in scientific observations, emphasises the impact of negativity on relationships and provides strategies to counteract it. By identifying destructive patterns like criticism and contempt, therapy introduces constructive alternatives, fostering deeper understanding and intimacy. Say goodbye to relationship destroyers and embrace a more harmonious partnership with the help of Alinda.

Relationship counselling and therapy

Relationship counselling and therapy uses varying models to address communication and conflict issues. The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships- is a form of couples-based therapy and education that draws on the pioneering studies of relationships by psychologist John M. Gottman and clinical practice conducted by John Gottman and his wife, psychologist Julie Gottman. There are nine components of what the Gottmans call The Sound Relationship House, from partners making love maps- or understanding the inner needs- of each other’s world and also breaking relationship gridlock. One of the reigning insights of the science-based approach is that in the dynamics of relationship systems, negative emotions like defensiveness and contempt have more power to hurt a relationship than positive emotions have to help a relationship. As a result, the structured therapy focuses on developing understanding and skills so that partners can maintain and build a healthy foundation.

Gottman therapy involves:

  • Each partner establishing a relationship with the therapist through sharing their history, their relationship philosophy, and their goals for treatment
  • Undergoing a thorough assessment of the marriage, including engaging in discussion of a topic on which partners disagree
  • Learning the research-derived components of healthy relationships
  • Bolstering the fondness and respect that first brought partners together
  • Learning and practicing skills for each element of a good relationship, from developing trust to repairing attacks and other regrettable incidents
  • Direct coaching from the therapist in the use of interaction skills
  • Acquiring tools for checking and maintaining relationship health beyond therapy.

Therapy focuses not only providing skills for managing relationships but delivering deeper insight into why partners create the relationship dynamics they do.

How the method works ispredicated on observations and predictions demonstrating that there is a real science around and behind love and relationships . It is built on research showing that negativity makes a big impact on the brain, and that unless they take steps to counteract instances of negativity, couples grow apart emotionally. It identifies and addresses the states of mind and behaviors shown to underlie intimacy and helps partners maintain a positive orientation to each other that can sustain them in upsetting circumstances. Couples therapy not only identifies negative patterns but introduces alternatives that lead to a more harmonious base. The four horsemen of the apocalypse- criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling are know to be relationship destroyers. Therapy can help remove these and introduce antidotes.