Attachment Theory and Relationships

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Attachment theory, introduced by psychologist John Bowlby, revolutionises our understanding of human connections. In this blog, we explore its key concepts and how they shape healthy relationships.

Key Concepts:

  1. Attachment Styles:

    • Secure: Trusting and comfortable with intimacy and independence.
    • Anxious-Preoccupied: Craving closeness but fearing rejection.
    • Avoidant: Prioritising independence and struggling with intimacy.
    • Disorganised: Exhibiting inconsistent behaviors due to trauma or unresolved conflicts.
  2. Internal Working Models: Early attachment experiences shape our beliefs about relationships, influencing how we perceive and respond to them.

  3. Attachment Behavioural System: Innate drive to seek proximity to attachment figures in times of distress, promoting emotional regulation and security.


  • Relationship Dynamics: Attachment styles affect communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intimacy.
  • Parenting: Early attachments influence children's emotional development and their ability to form secure relationships.
  • Healing and Growth: Awareness of attachment patterns empowers individuals to challenge maladaptive behaviours and foster secure attachments.

Conclusion: Attachment theory provides insights into the complexities of human relationships. By understanding attachment styles, we can cultivate healthier connections, fostering empathy, resilience, and fulfillments in our interactions.